From these circumstances, I may be a little too confident in my abilities of persuasion when it comes to converting more and more smokers to become vapers. Furthermore there still seems to always be a lingering doubt, a loitering suspicion or perhaps an unidentifiable sense of guilt.
Why would that be? Most likely because it’s not as if my conversion rate has been 20 for 20 when informing people of the amazing possibilities the vapelife can bring. Basically, there have been countless strikeouts that somehow feel more disappointing than the self-satisfying home runs.
The Biggest Challenge = The Biggest Disappointment
What has been the most challenging is convincing family and close friends of switching to the use of vapor products. Although I was successful with helping my Aunt transition slowly, it has been nearly impossible persuading the best friends I’ve been fortunate enough to have for decades.
Should I be forcing my views so extremely onto those closest to me? Indeed, vapers all know the science is there, Vaping is absolutely a harm reduction method for smokers. If the smokers are wanting to quit, then it seems necessary as an advocate for Vapor to introduce Vaping into their lives.
One of my best friend’s I’ve known since Middle School and played basketball on the same team for years has been the most difficult case of Vaper converting. As soon as I get him a new vapor device, he cuts back from smoking a pack a day, vapes, then returns back to smoking more returning back to smoking cigarettes
An Interview with the Subject
When I recently sat down with James Murphy, I asked him why he thought the attempts to switch to vapor seemed to be falling short? His reply consisted of not honestly knowing what the exact cause was, but he did provide a number of possible reasons. So many reasons, that perhaps this conundrum has more to do with personality compatibility than it does with any other possible explanation.
For instance, Murphy is an extrovert who lives in the city. Therefore, he loves to frequent the nightlife available in his metropolitan area. Jim goes out to bars nearly every night, not only because he is a very social person who enjoys a drink, but he also works in an industry where bars and restaurants are his customers and business associates.
Furthermore, Murphy feels that there is a strong social factor involved with allowing him to return to smoking so easily. He says,”If I’m out at the bar and I need to get away from a certain group of people or a certain person, it is the perfect excuse to ultimately excuse myself by going outside to have a cigarette. While at the same time, being a smoker is a great conversation starter for approaching the people I want to speak with and initiating an instant connection.”
James also adds to this justification, by stating “Also, it gives me a reason to go outside because I can’t just sit at a barstool or stand in the same area, I’m constantly moving – I have to keep moving no matter where I’m at and that might be from my A.D.H.D.”
Of course, the fact that James may have a slight case of attention deficiency could be the entire reason behind his need to continuously switch back to smoking. Then again, many could easily make the argument that becoming a Vaping hobbyist could also easily be something that would be advantageous for these specific circumstances.
It’s All My Fault
Murphy admits, my approaches to try to assist him with switching from full-fledged smoker to a full-time vaper are much too aggressive and sometimes demeaning. Not to mention, Murphy states “When you constantly tell me the same things over and over, it just makes me want to do the opposite of whatever it is that you tell me about how I need to quit smoking and keep vaping.”
Therefore, the opposite of what I tell him he should do would, of course, consist of Jim continuing to smoke. Considering this, this is another factor and in other words, “red flag” as to why you should not try to convert some of your best childhood friends into vapers, due to the fact that, although we may trust in eachother wholeheartedly, we also joke so often it can get to the point of how siblings banter and bicker.
Agree to Disagree or Maybe All Fault Is On Me
Regardless, I absolutely agree with Murphy with this point he makes. In socially constructed reality, our best friends, we typically tend to communicate much differently than we would with mere acquaintances.
So, I am absolutely more aggressive and pushy and I see how it can be overwhelming for Jim, but I honestly don’t have anything to gain from him quitting smoking, except for my best friend existing on this earth longer than if he were to continue poisoning his lungs with tobacco smoke
So, if I have nothing to immediately and automatically gain selfishly from this switch, except for prolonging my childhood friend’s life span, shouldn’t he feel grateful that someone is pushing him to quit one of the worst habits a person could become addicted to? Maybe.
Then again, I’m a vape advocate, so perhaps I am biased. Not to mention, as a Sociologist I should be well aware that we take criticism from those we are closest with the hardest.
What is frustrating for me is I will buy him another device that is known to be a great device for transitioning off cigarettes. For instance, the current device he is using and not using is the eGo AIO “All-in-One” – many would agree that is a decent device for transitioning from cigarettes
When I asked if he wants to quit smoking, Jim says he does, but he also admits that smoking has become a part of who he is. Smoking cigarettes has become engraved into his identity. All vapers can surely relate to this I’m sure, as The majority of us you’re all once smokers as well there is also a part of him that doesn’t want to quit smoking…obviously.
For me, I quit dipping smokeless tobacco and smoking tobacco cigarettes overnight, which I am by no means attempting to express a twisted sense of boastful pride. Perhaps, naturally since it seems like it was an effortless miracle in my experience with switching to vapor products and the successful feats of flipping 20 smokers into vapers, this is why the situation has become so frustrating as an advocate. so why is one of my best friend’s not able to do the same
Unanswered Questions Might Be Unanswerable
Can we still operate as responsible advocates while simultaneously maintaining long standing friendships with smokers? Or am I the only advocate who has had such an experience? Or am I being a good friend, yet at the same time abandoning my duties as an effective advocate? Maybe it’s more like vice-a-versa? From here, so many of these questionable questions continue.
Does Advocacy supersede or outrank Friendship? Should it? It is often said that true commitment requires absolute sacrifice. Should I be viewing converting smokers into vapers as an accomplishment? Many may disagree but the only answer which comes to mind for this inquiry is, “HELL YES!” However, should we be willing to potentially damage are closest relationships to convince our friends who smoke that they must embrace the vape? HELL if I know.
Only time will tell. Perhaps all my fellow advocates out there could lend a hand by encouraging my friend James B. Murphy IV to quit smoking. After all, this is the vape advocacy mission.
Murphy adds, “Yes, of course I want to quit, but I’m not going to quit whenever you think you’re helping me to quit, I’ll quit whenever I feel like I’m helping myself quit.” So, then the question becomes, does Murphy truly want to quit? Or am I forcing him to not want to quit each I time I continue to nag him about it?
So Many Variables May Require a Future Study
Clearly, there are far too many factors to discover the end-all, be-all solution given these circumstances. This entire scenario is creating more questions than answers. At this point, all I can do is rationally assess the situation and ask questions because I do not have the answers.
Then again, maybe YOU do. Of course, at the Vaping Post, we are well-aware our readers are very knowledgeable vapers and intelligent people. Therefore, please feel free to leave comments below. Suggestions, criticism, insight, stories of similar experiences, anything you’d like to add would be greatly helpful for the advocacy movement since whatever you say may help me be a better advocate and friend or perhaps help Jim quit altogether. As stated previously, helping smokers quit is the mission, right?
Remember to check for further developments in this story by visiting the Vaping Post regularly. With your insights, perhaps we can help another smoker quit for good.